Filipinos are known around the world to be happy a lot.
During calamities that hit the Philippines, they continued and managed to smile and build back even after the devastation.
But like anyone else in the world, Filipinos are not immune to sickness, problems, and even depression.
In 2008, the Natasha Goulbourn Foundation (NGF) indicated that overseas Filipino workers (OFWs) are among those most likely to suffer depression owing to physical, mental, and emotional challenges that living and working abroad bring.
If you sense there’s something wrong with your family, friends and loved ones living or working abroad, then, maybe it’s high time you also get acquainted with the right thing to do so you can help them.
Psychotherapist Brandon Santan and Kaylen Staten, a 31-year-old from West Virginia who has struggled with depression most of her life, share their thoughts in an article published on MSN News.
1. Anong nararamdaman mo? Anong nasa isip mo?
Rather than telling them the usual things like, “You seem sad” or “You seem depressed”, ask them what they really feel.
You will look like you have already judged them when they have not even opened up to you.
How you approach them always make the difference.
2. Makinig. Makinig. Makinig.
You haven’t been in their shoes, right? So don’t try to give them unsolicited advice.
For a depressed individual, they need someone to listen to them.
Empathize and show your support. By doing so, you can keep the focus on them. According to Staten, a little bit of validation can go a long way.
3. Baka gusto mong kumain sa labas? O makipagkita para makapag-relax?
Don’t make them go to clubs or go to areas where they are compelled to socialize.
Instead, it’s more convenient for them to hang out and do a one-on-one activity.
They may decline at first but a little effort goes a long way. They will realize that you are thinking of them and you care.
4. Kailangan lang talaga nila ng oras para sa kanilang sarili.
Don’t lash it out on them if they reject your help or they would request to be left alone.
Don’t take it personally. You must widen your understanding and empathy for them. It really takes time so don’t rush them.
5. Alamin kung kailan dapat humingi ng tulong sa isang propesyonal.
You can’t force them to get treated if they don’t want to. Know when to seek help especially if you sense that your loved one’s depression is getting worse.
These are the signs that you should be wary about:
-change in sleeping or eating habits
-acting more isolated or withdrawn
-poor self-care
-not being able to take care of their usual responsibilities
-excessive crying, agitation or irritability
Dr. Santan says you can talk with the person’s medical doctor if the depression worsens but there are no medical emergencies such as suicidal thoughts.
Always keep in mind that the first step is to express concern about a loved one’s depression is to ask to be invited to their struggles.
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(Elle Sy)
