Yes, there are so many types to know other than “ghosting”
“He just stopped talking to me.” Feels familiar? Many of you have probably experienced it because dating nowadays is not as straightforward as it used to be. Apparently, in this modern age of swiping and heart emojis, creating or ending a relationship with someone has evolved digitally. You might have experienced them but do not realize it yet, so it’s good to be in the know about the new types of dating. Check these out and see if you have also done this, or vice versa:
Ghosting
The most popular term in modern dating book. Ghosting is when someone you are in constant touch with, or even in a relationship with, suddenly stops talking to you without any explanation. Were you able to relate to Bea Alonzo’s claims of how her relationship ended with Gerald Anderson? That was savage.
Cuffing
It’s the start of the holiday season, and you’re far from home, away from your family, and single. You start to entertain another single person just so you don’t get “malamig na pasko.” That’s called cuffing. It can also be applicable on weeks before Valentine’s Day. The pressure, right?
Kittenfishing
Have you ever talked to someone online and they look really good on their profiles and social media photos, only to meet them in person for the first time and realize they look almost nothing like their online photos, at least not currently? Yeah, you have been kittenfished.
Breadcrumbing
You’re attracted to this officemate or someone in your building, and the person probably likes you too, but you’re not sure so you do these little acts to put them on the hook. That’s breadcrumbing. This includes secret looks and smiles in the elevator or the pantry, or sending them sweet but non-committal messages (think heart or kiss emoji reactions on your Instagram stories or Facebook MyDay, commenting “pretty” or “you look nice” on their posts, or simply messaging with them on WhatsApp). You put the breadcrumbs, and the other person will follow.
Zombeing
So this person who ghosted you suddenly talks to you again as if nothing happened, or more appropriately, as if coming back from the dead. That’s called zombeing. Beware, as these people usually reach out because their relationships or potential ones did not work out. Make sure you don’t end up as the Plan Z.
Cookie Jarring
Are you dating someone, but then you’re also looking for another potential one just in case your current one does not work out? If you are then you’re cookie jarring both of them. If you’re afraid to take the risk of going all-in with your current partner, then just break up with them. You’re gonna end up hurting both of them.
Benching
If you feel like you’re their Plan B, or if they don’t want you to see someone else even though they already told you they’re not interested, then you’ve officially been benched. These people will often tell you how they are not ready for a commitment, or how “it is not you, it’s me.” But when they feel like you’re moving on to someone else, they start to string you along just for you to wait for them again. Benching is also when you juggle two potential relationships and determine which one is more promising. Careful falling into that trap!
Orbiting
Your partner ends things with you for whatever reason but then continuously stalks you on social media, even liking and reacting on every single one of your post or Instagram story. That feeling confuses you and makes you wonder what’s up, even leading to you assuming things would heat up again. That’s orbiting—constantly asking yourself the question “will we or won’t we?”
Pocketing
Also called stashing, this is the type of dating wherein the one you’re seeing does not introduce you to any of the people in his/her life. Have you ever heard of the lines “Can’t we just enjoy the moment on our own?” or “I just want us to live in our little bubble/world”? That would be romantic at the start but if you’ve been dating for a while and they haven’t even shown you off yet, not even on social media, then you should think twice about that person. You don’t deserve to be kept hidden in someone’s pocket or stashed away from his world.
Daterviewing
Have you ever dated someone wherein the date felt more like a job interview? Daterview is when your date constantly asks questions about your life—from your job, the cause of your last breakup, your interest in kids or marriage, to your political and social opinions. That sounds exhausting, isn’t it?
