Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken.
And while it makes every moment with your loved one extra special, it also comes with problems that are much more difficult to bear than the ‘distance’ itself. Here are some:
1. Being jealous is inevitable
It’s not always about another girl. It’s just feeling jealous and sad that he is with someone else when he could be spending time with you. Just seeing his posts or updates on social media with friends will awaken the envy in you. It would really be wonderful if you were watching this movie with him or listening to a particular band with him, but the distance sucks. Big time.
2. Arguments are worse
Arguments are more complicated. You can’t just sit down and talk face-to-face to settle a misunderstanding. Sometimes you’re also tempted to just not answer the call or the message if you’re tired and you’re not in the mood to talk, which just makes the problem worse. It’s also easier to assume what the other person is saying because you can’t see their facial expressions or hear them say those words. You have to explain yourself and make things really clear so the fight would end and you’d both be okay. And debating over FaceTime is just not the same.
3. It gets a little lonely most of the time
Being in a long distance relationship may sometimes feel like nothing has changed because you’re still by yourself on most days. You don’t get to celebrate all your milestones together, like a simple A+ in your Algebra exam. He won’t be there to be your date for prom or graduation ball because he’s too far away. Whenever you need someone to talk to, he won’t always be there or you have to wait before you get to talk to him.
4. Conversations have to be scheduled
Communication isn’t always easy, because you’re not in the same place or worse, you’re in different time zones. It’s not easy to just call him and talk about the normal stuff. Sometimes he’ll be too tired to talk or you’re too exhausted to stay up late and tell him about your day because you’ve had so much to do in school.
5. You have to follow a schedule most of the time
Most things have to be planned. You have to set dates and even a specific time just to be able to go online at the same time. What’s even sadder is if you missed the planned schedule, because then you’ll have to wait a few more hours and sometimes even days to get to talk to him again.
6. The future
The crucial point is when you both talk about the future or even just think of the future. What happens when you go to college or graduate from college? Who has to move and who has to leave? What compromises and sacrifices should be made? Are both of you ready to give up a huge part of your lives to be with the other person? You have gotten so used to being apart that you fear being together and being in one place will cause your relationship to fall apart.
7. Trust will always be an issue
But the biggest problem is probably trusting that the other person won’t go behind your back and hurt you. That like you, he’s also a hundred percent in the relationship. That he won’t go around looking for someone to talk to and share his moments with. And sometimes, even you fear that you won’t be able to handle the distance.
