They say you will never understand what love is until you experience it. But take it from the pro and life coach Bro. Bo Sanchez.
These timeless pieces of advice will ensure your relationship stays healthy in the long run.
Top 3 qualities to look for before settling down
By Anne Lora Santos
He even authored a book entitled, “How To Find Your One True Love.”
More than half of the UAE’s population are single and young adults, however settling down remains to be not as easy.
While others choose to pursue careers, some just keep falling in love with the wrong person.
Sanchez advised to write a non-negotiable list of how’d you like your potential mate to be.
“The word says it clear, ‘Ask and you shall receive.’ However, don’t put ‘I want to marry a handsome or beautiful girl.’”
Here is Sanchez’ list of ideal qualities that are for a successful long-term relationship.
1 Marry the man you want your son to become.
Sanchez said it is vital that you date someone who you want your future kids to look up to. A man who’d you’d like to see your daughter date and your son to become.
2 Marry a good conversationalist.
Sanchez also said never concentrate on the looks because beauty fades. Rather, marry someone you enjoy talking to from day ‘till night. “How boring will it be to look at a beautiful face without any connection?” He added, “Don’t be fooled by looks, but rather see what’s on the inside.”
3 Marry someone who has the same vision as yours
Sanchez said one of the reasons why his marriage is strong to this day is because he and his wife have the same vision.
“Yes, you are two different persons but you should always have the same vision that keeps you moving forward,” he said.
Advice to all single ladies: “Never marry because of love”
By Anne Lora Santos
Bo Sanchez has been married with his wife, Marowe for almost a decade and he sure knows what he is talking about when he says, “Never marry because of love.”
A shocker statement as it may seem, but it makes sense.
In an exclusive interview with The Filipino Times, the author and motivational speaker said that this statement can save all the single ladies years and years of heartache and tears.
Sanchez said that romantic love is like the wind— here today, gone tomorrow.
“Only marry because you’ve found the right partner and choose to love him forever – the kind of man you’d think will be a good husband to you and good father to your kids in the future,” he said.
Sanchez said he loves how the author of the classic, The Road Less Travelled, Scott Peck explains what true love is.
He says that true love begins only when one falls out of love because true love has to be willed. There’s got to be a decision involved.
“While you’re in love with someone, love is involuntary. You just love. But when you fall out of love, and you still make a choice to love, then that’s the beginning of true love,” he said.
4 steps how single ladies can find their soulmates
For years, many have tried to define this word. However, no one has yet succeeded, maybe because of the profoundness of the emotions that come along with it, which no words can encompass.
Instead of defining it, others can only come up with explanation to it. One example is that it is believed to be an odd sense or feeling that everything between you and a person seems to have already happened a long time ago, perhaps just in a different setting. Yes, that moment is called déjà vu.
But how can you find him? How can you find your soulmate?
According to best-selling author and life coach Bro. Bo Sanchez, there are four steps that can serve as a guide to every single lady out there to finally find her soulmate, he who can make her prosper though life.
1. Raise your flags
Single ladies need to put up a flag to state their standards. It is a declaration of who they are and the kind of men to whom they want to spend their life with. Bro. Bo said it cannot be just about anything or anybody or basta lang, because this thinking indicates lack of knowledge about themselves. In this flag, he said, women must be able to determine their “negotiable and non-negotiable list”or things that women can live or live without.
2. Flow
This simply means that single women should try to go out and meet people in order for them to find the right one. And finding the right one, he said, means having options.
3. Do not be desperate
Bro. Bo advised that “a single woman can give a special look to a guy, but she must give him a look of hesitation as well”. In this sense, he said women must neither be desperate nor too reserved about their emotions since these will most likely drive possible suitors away.
As for his explanation, Bro. Bo said men can smell the scent of desperation even miles away. And because men are genetically hunters, “They like the thrill and the adventure of the hunt,” he said, adding that…
“If there’s a scent of hesitation, men will be attracted and challenged” to go after it.
As to why give men a hint, Bro. Bo said that although they want the thrill of hunting, men also want to ascertain if there’s a probability of success. Simply because they are terrified of rejection.
4. Be firm
The last piece of advice deals with the kind of values that every woman must possess. And it is not to give any man the benefit of marriage without the marriage per se.
To put it simply, women must let any guy do the hoops and make that firm decision in life not to give up everything to him, because men are always looking for someone who’s attractively modest.
Bro. Bo left an analogy to this that every single woman can ponder on:
“If a guy can download an HD movie on the Internet for free, do you think he would still go to the movie house to watch it?”
