DUBAI: Getting married, psychologists say, is but just one part of a relationship. Keeping it alive is 75% of it.
Psychology Today has published the following tips for a successful marriage:
1. Keep dating each other. Dates aren’t exclusively for young lovers; they can be magic for couples who have been together for a while. Leaving the home provides a change of scenery and enlivens things for both partners. But staying home for a date can be fun, too; you can dinner by candlelight, for example.
2. Go on a second (or third) honeymoon. Honeymoons (without the kids, of course) aren’t just for the newly married. Taking one every year is not too much. Lots of people make a tradition of this practice.
3. Unplug. Designate what we refer to as “sacred time” and create a tech-free zone which will assure you that there will be no interruptions to intimacy.
4. Pour a hot bath together. Some delightful ways of spending an evening together don’t cost anything. Going into the tub with each other (by candlelight, of course), followed by more candlelight in the bedroom, is sure to enhance the spirit of romance.
5. Serve each other. Take turns being in service to each other. You could shave his face and he could shave your legs.
6. Feed each other. Agree beforehand to feed each other every forkful of a meal. We know some couples who have done this in restaurants, often to the surprise of other diners.
7. Gaze into each others’ eyes. Spend time being connected through your eyes only, without the need to exchange words.
8. Dance in private. After dinner you can listen to music together, and might even want to dance. If you’d prefer privacy, try dancing with your partner in your own living room or bedroom.
9. Read poetry together. Reading love poems to each other brings sweetness.
10. Hide love notes for your partner to find. Love notes stuck in books, under plates and pillows, and in the drawer are sure to draw smiles of appreciation.
11. Speak the language of love to each other. Last, but not least, is the way lovers talk romantic talk. It needs to be sincere, intimate, and full of feeling from the heart.