Filipinos, whether in a family, circle or community, always stick together through thick and thin. That’s why most Overseas Filipino Workers come to their family or friend’s rescue with no reservation.
But what would you do if the people you cherish the most are the one causing you so much pain and difficulty?
Would you endure and stay? Or would you choose to let go of the toxicity that they bring to your life?
The Filipino Times compiled five things you can learn from cutting ties with toxic people.
1. Being family or friends doesn’t give them permission to treat you like crap
This usually happens when you can’t readily give them what they want. What you’ve given them in the past won’t matter. They tend to magnify the time you failed to give them the financial help they’re asking or material things they wish to have from you. If this happens, it’s not really a bad thing to shut them off of your life, especially if you’ve already reached your limits.
2. You also need to do what is best for yourself
No, it’s not being selfish. It only means acknowledging the fact that you, too, have your own life. You have dreams to fulfill. You have your own happiness to pursue.
3. There will be days that you will miss them
It is but natural to miss them or to want to reconnect. You’ve been with them for quite a long time afterall. However, you’ll have to ask yourself: do you want to go through all that hurt again? Evaluate where you are at the moment.
4. They would change
The reality is: you can’t change someone who has always been like that. Well and good if they want to change for the better, but if you’re still the one adjusting to their own behavior, you must erase that idea of giving them another chance.
5. Nobody has the right to judge your decisions
You will hear from friends telling you that you will regret doing it. But you have to stand firm. They don’t know your story. So, don’t ever let them affect you. You will cry one night, be happy the next day. It all means that life is indeed a journey and you’ll surely move forward.
Your choice of cutting off toxicity from your life would do you good mentally, emotionally, and physically. That choice is yours to make.
